Real Stories from Real Parents, Grandparents, Teachers, and other Carers about their children's behaviors.

amazing book it sets the parent straight and helps in every way
it has helped reduce my stress and helped my thinking to be clear and I am a nicer person in general and to the 5 and 16 yr old.

AND I am not repeating myself….that was a biggie

- Darlene Shapiro

Dear Dr. Swanson,

It seems odd that, until a few weeks ago, I had never replied to any of your e-mails; but here I am sending my second reply just a few weeks after the first one!

But I just had to tell you that this is perhaps MY FAVORITE e-mail of any you’ve sent so far!!! Not because any of my children have Asperger’s, but because your explanation of how to deal with it could apply to any behavior-related “disorder.” I especially appreciated your positive take on the concept of putting a “label” on a child; this is normally painted in a very negative light, but your suggestion to use it as a “tool” is so right on target!

Thank you, and may God bless you for the great work you continue to do!

Theresa McDonald
Boone Hospital Center
Spiritual Care Services

Noel…

this is another “great article” from you! I think if more parents understood the importance of consistency, routines and traditions within the family context, they’d realize there’d be fewer family conflicts and way less stress! I work with so many families…and this is usually one of the areas parents are lacking in…yet admit they need help in establishing it. They all seem to “want to be” consistent but have difficulty in becoming consistent.

You are very genuine, practical and “down to earth” in your writings and advice…thank you!
Hazel

Dear Mr. Swanson:

When I purchased your book online, the main problem we were experiencing with our 8 year daughter was lying. The day after reading your book I started on some graphs. She then earned points for her daily responsibilities which could be spent for purchasing privileges the next day. Since we were trying to curb her tendency to lie, we added a deduction category which would deduct enough points from her total to blow any chance of participating in “Family Fun Night” at the end of the week. It’s been 3 weeks now, and she’s earned all but one “Family Fun Night”. This is miraculous, as this has been a problem which has plagued us almost daily for the better part of a year.

When I saw how she responded to this new system, I went out of my way to make this as pleasurable for her as it is for me. For example: One morning she was about to take the last donut when she stopped and brought it to me wondering if I would like it instead. This is behavior quite out of the norm for her. I got silly and started jumping up and down yelling “Extra credit, two points, thinking of others before ourselves!” I made a point to let her know that she wouldn’t ALWAYS earn extra credit for doing the right thing, but that she would always earn my respect for it. This made a huge impact on her, as she’s been going out of her way for the whole family ever since.

Needless to say, our family has been much more peaceful as of late and genuinely enjoying each others company. This has made an incredible difference.

Thank you with all my heart.

Robin Marculis

Noel,

I just wanted to let you know that I did get the book downloaded and I have already read some of it. I’m excited to read more because I have already read things that I think will work. Also, I told my husband about the book and he is surprisingly interested in what I am reading.

Thank you for making sure I got the book downloaded and I look forward to reading it all and making it work.

Diana Mainord

yes, thank you…we have downloaded it and even started practising some of the strategies and believe it or not it worked this morning….no fuss, no struggle, no engaging in power struggles…..

will keep you posted on our progress.

thank you.

Sandra Shatilla.

Hi Noel,

Thanks for your continuing support.

Your book has been a lifesaver. We have been trying new techniques with our children and it is working.

As you know it is very easy to slip back into old habits - shouting etc. but we will keep trying!!!

Many thanks again

I look forward to your letters.

Karen

Hi Mr. Swanson…Sorry it’s been so long to respond.

I have to say that this book has done wonders with my daughter in the short time I’ve had it. She like to argue, but taking that away and sending her to her room works great with her. We get a long great now too. We are just have a harder time with my Step-daughter because we only get her 2 days a week and her life at “home” is not structured as it is here. I think in just a little more time something from this book will work when I do get a chance to get through it all.

Thanks again and I look forward to having a very happy home.

Yours Truly

Diana Mainord

Dear Noel

I thought I would take this quiet moment to write an email to you and

thank you for the pearls of wisdom you have provided with me in relation

to your good child guide. I was becoming quite desperate before

Christmas, When I read your website and could relate to so many things

(including the dreadful thought of not wanting my son around) I decided

to buy your guide. It has been the absolute best. The 1-2-3 principle

works like a dream. I realised I was offering treats and then taking

them away as soon as he made one mistake - not giving him any incentive

to try at all.

After following your principles life has certainly changed. I have not

triumphed in every area, however, life is looking brighter and I thank

you for that.
Joanne

Glen Iris, Australia

Hi Noel

I am already planning to use some of the strategies, it is like a breath of fresh air, after a while i think you tend to run out of steam and ideas and find yourself slipping , but this is really useful.

Thanks
Audrey