I AM SURE YOU HAVE HAD A CAMERA IN MY HOME FOR THE PAST SEVEN YEARS

DEAR NOEL THANK YOU FOR YOUR EMAILS AND FOR THE BOOK .WE ARE HALF WAY THROUGH READING IT JUST NOW . I AM SURE YOU HAVE HAD A CAMERA IN MY HOME FOR THE PAST SEVEN YEARS AS ALL YOU DESCRIBE DESCRIBES MY HOME LIFE.

I HAVE SOUGHT THE HELP OF DOCTORS, HEALTH VISITORS AND FRIENDS WITH NO IMPROVEMENT. UNLESS YOU HAVE A CHILD WITH A RECOGNISED ILLNESS OR WHO IS DISRUPTIVE AT SCHOOL NO ONE SEEMS TO UNDERSTAND HOW TERRIBLE HOMELIFE CAN BE WITH A DISRUPTIVE CHILD. MY SON IS THE PERFECT SCHOOL PUPIL WELL MANNERED PERFECT GRANDSON ,FRIEND YET IN THE HOUSE HIS BEHAVIOUR IS TERRIBLE MY HUSBAND AND I TRY VERY HARD TO WORK AS A TEAM BUT OFTEN END UP DISAGREEING AND I KNOW THIS IS NOT A GOOD EXAMPLE TO MY SON I HAVE TWO DAUGHTERS WHO ARE VERY WELL BEHAVED AT HOME AND I THINK THIS MAKES THINGS EVEN HARDER FOR MY SON LATELY HE HAS BECOME VERY VIOLENT TO ME AND THIS IS REALLY UPSETTING MY OLDEST DAUGHTER WHO IS 10

I HAVE TRIED TO FIND REASONS FOR HIS BEHAVIOUR AND BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE MANY FACTORS . I DEMAND MANNERS, AND ALTHOUGH I BELEIVE MYSELF TO BE VERY LOVING WITH LOTS OF HUGS AND KISSES I WORK FULL TIME AS A NURSE THAT INVOLVES EARLY STARTS AND BURN OUT BY THE END OF A BUSY WEEK I ALSO GET VERY EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED IN WHAT I DO AND AT TIMES CAN NOT TURN OFF FROM MY WORK

ALSO THE STREET THAT WE LIVE IN HAS NO BOYS FOR HIM TO PLAY WITH AS A RESULT ALL THE TREE CLIMBING ,FOOTBALL AND OTHER BOYS GAMES HAVE MADE HIM STAND OUT TO ANGRY NEIGHBOARS WHO GET BALLS IN THEIR FLOWER BEDS ETC

SORRY I AM GOING ON AND ON I WILL KEEP YOU UP TO DATE ON OUR PROGRESS AND WILL KEEP GOING WITH YOUR GUIDELINES FOR AS LONG AS IT TAKES

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Dr. Noel Swanson, Consultant Child Psychiatrist and author of The GOOD CHILD Guide, specializes in children's behavioural difficulties and writes a free newsletter for parents. He can be contacted through his website on Expert Parenting Advice.