I AM SURE YOU HAVE HAD A CAMERA IN MY HOME FOR THE PAST SEVEN YEARS
By Dr. Noel Swanson
DEAR NOEL THANK YOU FOR YOUR EMAILS AND FOR THE BOOK .WE ARE HALF WAY THROUGH READING IT JUST NOW . I AM SURE YOU HAVE HAD A CAMERA IN MY HOME FOR THE PAST SEVEN YEARS AS ALL YOU DESCRIBE DESCRIBES MY HOME LIFE.
I HAVE SOUGHT THE HELP OF DOCTORS, HEALTH VISITORS AND FRIENDS WITH NO IMPROVEMENT. UNLESS YOU HAVE A CHILD WITH A RECOGNISED ILLNESS OR WHO IS DISRUPTIVE AT SCHOOL NO ONE SEEMS TO UNDERSTAND HOW TERRIBLE HOMELIFE CAN BE WITH A DISRUPTIVE CHILD. MY SON IS THE PERFECT SCHOOL PUPIL WELL MANNERED PERFECT GRANDSON ,FRIEND YET IN THE HOUSE HIS BEHAVIOUR IS TERRIBLE MY HUSBAND AND I TRY VERY HARD TO WORK AS A TEAM BUT OFTEN END UP DISAGREEING AND I KNOW THIS IS NOT A GOOD EXAMPLE TO MY SON I HAVE TWO DAUGHTERS WHO ARE VERY WELL BEHAVED AT HOME AND I THINK THIS MAKES THINGS EVEN HARDER FOR MY SON LATELY HE HAS BECOME VERY VIOLENT TO ME AND THIS IS REALLY UPSETTING MY OLDEST DAUGHTER WHO IS 10
I HAVE TRIED TO FIND REASONS FOR HIS BEHAVIOUR AND BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE MANY FACTORS . I DEMAND MANNERS, AND ALTHOUGH I BELEIVE MYSELF TO BE VERY LOVING WITH LOTS OF HUGS AND KISSES I WORK FULL TIME AS A NURSE THAT INVOLVES EARLY STARTS AND BURN OUT BY THE END OF A BUSY WEEK I ALSO GET VERY EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED IN WHAT I DO AND AT TIMES CAN NOT TURN OFF FROM MY WORK
ALSO THE STREET THAT WE LIVE IN HAS NO BOYS FOR HIM TO PLAY WITH AS A RESULT ALL THE TREE CLIMBING ,FOOTBALL AND OTHER BOYS GAMES HAVE MADE HIM STAND OUT TO ANGRY NEIGHBOARS WHO GET BALLS IN THEIR FLOWER BEDS ETC
SORRY I AM GOING ON AND ON I WILL KEEP YOU UP TO DATE ON OUR PROGRESS AND WILL KEEP GOING WITH YOUR GUIDELINES FOR AS LONG AS IT TAKES
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Dr. Noel Swanson, Consultant Child Psychiatrist and author of The GOOD CHILD Guide, specializes in children's behavioural difficulties and writes a free newsletter for parents. He can be contacted through his website on Expert Parenting Advice.



