Success Stories about Toddlers and Pre-Schoolers
The GOOD CHILD Guide is primarily targetted at ages 5 to 12 but, as you can see from these testimonials, the principles work perfectly well with children as young as 18 months - you just need to adapt the strategies slightly to make them work.
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I did receive it, thanks! I have started reading it and it’s amazing how much I can relate to everything you are saying. And, yes, I will not jump in to anything until I have read the whole guide, analyzed it and make a plan for what will be best for my daughter (3 1/2 years old). The only thing I have done since I got the guide is to keep my cool. Not losing your temper is the biggest challenge (for the parent) but I have noticed a big difference in only 3 days. We’ll see. I’ll keep you posted and I feel confident this guide will be very helpful. Oh, and by the way, my husband is anxious to read it as well so that too is another plus for us!
Thanks for all your emails.
I’m now into the third week of implementing a couple of the simple strategies outlined in your book. My daughter is only 3, so I have developed a very simple star chart with her, which only includes 4 ‘star tasks’ each day – getting dressed in the morning, leaving for ‘little school’ when it’s time, having a bath when I say and going to bed when I say. Stephanie has really hooked into the idea of getting stars for these tasks, and most days she gets 4 stars, although we do have some bad/challenging days still. 4 stars means 2 little treats (chocolate) after dinner and 3 stars means 1 little treat. Any less than that and there’s no treat.
I’ve also started the 1-2-3 magic and it is very effective. There have been quite a few time outs though, and I’m finding it hard to get Steph to understand that she needs to be quiet for the 3 minutes she’s in her room. So far, she’ll stay in her room, but she’s certainly not quiet during that time. Still … it seems to be working, as once time out is finished we usually move on with no more repetition of what started the 1-2-3 process to begin with.
Life has definitely improved at home as a result of these strategies, so thanks for your book.
So far, it is working great. We have enjoyed the last 3 days with our little boy tremendously and it has had immediate results.
I’m not sure if you actually read your email or you just get too many. I just want to let you know I’ve started reading and implementing your steps with my 14 month old who started banging her head on the floor when she doesn’t get her own way. It’s amazing when she doesn’t get the attention after doing that, her crying stops and she’s goes on playing with her toys or onto another task.
I think for her, the payoff was the attention she got, eventhough it was negative. She’s not getting the attention, but I do tell her that her behavior is not acceptable and that it’s ok to be mad and frustrated. I just wanted to give her “words” that she can eventually use to vocalize how she’s feeling. She is talking already, dog, cat, chicken, ball etc.
So once again, thank you so much for your book. I can’t wait to finish reading it and my husband is fully on board too and he’s going to read it next. He’s really helping support me in this and knows we may not see a complete change in behavior right away.
Michelle and Patrick and daughter Alexis
I wanted to send you an email to let you know that I am so grateful that I found your website and “THE GOOD CHILD” book. I have two boys aged 4 & 2, I know that your book is primarily for 5-12yo but I thought I would give it a go. Since reading your book 2 weeks ago I am absolutely amazed how much calmer my home is. Hopefully we are over the worst.
The case that you gave about the “biscuit” was what persuaded me to buy the book. While reading the book I started to understand where things were going wrong. I was getting into an argument with my 4yo son and as you say he was winning everytime. He was taking the gamble and winning. Since doing things by the book, he now knows that I mean what I say. Hopefully by reading your book now when the boys are young we will always have this strategy in place to be good parents and have good children.
Thank you for writing the book. Our family and home is certainly better for it. I know that there will still be days when they are very trying, however the yelling and screaming days are behind us. I am a much calmer person towards my children and we have lots of fun days together.
I hope you enjoyed reading my short but sweet success story.