By Dr. Noel Swanson
A time comes in every marriage when the spark of romance seems to have died down. If you see the romance going out of your marriage, it is time to go on a date with your husband.
It doesn’t take much to remember how it used to be. Small efforts can help you both recall what it was like when you were that cute couple, walking hand in hand and appreciating the romance of starry nights.
Take action to rekindle the spark and fire of your relationship. Go on a date just like you did so many years ago. Kids in the way of a romantic night out? No problem. Hire a babysitter and escape on a date both of you will remember forever. Picture this:
Your husband sets up a room at a hotel you love then calls you at work to tell you what time to be ready to leave the house on Friday evening, and that you need to pack a bag for the weekend. He says his bag is already packed. When the time arrives, he arrives in a rental car, possibly one like the hot rod he had when you first started your romance. You should feel what it was like to be a young dating woman again. You check in at the hotel. When you arrive at the room he opens the door, and you see the honeymoon suite in front of you. Waiting in the room are red roses and a bottle of wine. In the air, your favorite music is playing throughout the room. The romantic weekend is underway.
Do you think this is unrealistic? Think again. You need this kind of escape. You need time together with no one bothering you, no household duties, and no kids asking for something every few minutes. If you think about it, it sounds like the perfect thing for a relationship. It’s the kind of scene you would expect in a romantic movie.
You don’t have to make big plans; simple things in life can rekindle a romance. All you need to do is find exclusive time for the both of you. Once in a while you need to break the routine and get out. Family responsibilities, work, and kids come in the way of romance. Take care of them by all means, but spare some time for romance also.
Even if it’s just a few stolen moments, you should make a regular date time to spend time with your mate. You can use this time to have a nice quiet meal, take walks in the park, and just talk to each other to enjoy that time together.
There’s no time like the present to rekindle that romance.
Dr. Noel Swanson, Consultant Child Psychiatrist and author of The GOOD CHILD Guide, specializes in children's behavioural difficulties and writes a free newsletter for parents. He can be contacted through his website on Expert Parenting Advice.