I have read your latest article and I have to say you are quite right – if you don’t do some of the work yourself you will never get anywhere in life.
I have an 8 year old adopted daughter and last year (only 2 years) after adoption, my husband left us – since then I have had an awful lot of problems with her, although she is still a very loving and friendly little girl, I have had terrible problems getting her to sleep at night and she can be very aggressive and angry, which normally gets taken out on me and my possessions. I am getting “outside” help from Play Therapy but that only helps her really, it does not help me cope. Don’t get me wrong, we have more good times than bad times but it is always the bad ones that tend to stick in your memory and sometimes I feel that I have failed her by “losing” my husband so soon after we adopted her, but then that is another story!!!
Anyway what I actually wrote to say was that I find your book very useful, quite often after we have had yet another “disagreement” I will pull your book out and look at certain chapters on it and remind myself what I could have done in those circumstances to try and stop things going so far, I know hindsight is wonderful thing but at least I am learning through my mistakes and through some of the suggestions you make in your book and things really are getting better.
I guess what I am really trying to say is Thank you for your help. Your newsletters are always interesting and witty, and I just wanted to make sure that you get another “good” email today.