I have read your great book and I am presently implementing many of the things that you have suggested, some of which seem to have made immediate improvements. Our daughters behaviour has been challenging to say the least since she turned 18 months (she’s now 4 1/2) and I have had many tearful moments and moments of complete despair and embarrassment, and times when my stress levels have been pushed past their limits.
We recently took our daughter to a behavioural psychologist and she has said that she feels that our daughters behaviour is personality driven (both my husband & I come from strong personalitied families) as her behaviour is not consistently bad, and is not ADHD as we feared it may have been. She does however show some of the traits of ADHD. The therapist did say that she was concerned that our daughters intelligence levels were far higher than her social levels and that her strong will and determination for control needs to be nurtured very carefully in order for her to be able to communicate at the same level as her peers. This left both my husband and I a little confused & concerned to say the least, but this appointment is going to be followed up by some therapy through play which she feels will help.. so here’s hoping that with the information from your book and the play therapy, that our lives will be a happier and more fun loving household.
I really felt your advice on having fun time every week (even if the behaviour hasn’t been very good) is so important to raise the spirit of the family. This is so important otherwise you can get into a stalemate situation where your not doing fun things because the behaviour is so bad, which demotivates everyone involved and only proves to make the overall situation worse.
I continue to re read your book which motivates me to improve my behaviour, which in turn will hopefully improve my daughters.
Thank you so much for your continued support