I think it’s high time I wrote to thank you. I certainly appreciate your efforts and skill in producing the Good Child Guide. Generally speaking I don’t have a problem with either of my children and we are all pretty respectful of one another. However, I got divorced 5 years ago and shortly afterwards my daughter, now aged 17, seemed completely incapable of picking up after herself and keeping her room tidy. I think I probably felt guilty about breaking up the family and so expected less from my children. Lowered expectations gradually resulted in a change in behaviour. So, in order to address the ‘surface issues’, I bought your book and applied ‘The Deal’. I bought it a few months ago and now the picking up and tidying issues are a thing of the past. We don’t even have ‘The Deal’ on the wall anymore – it is implicit.
I can’t tell you how strongly I subscribe to the idea that it is vital to keep petty annoyances down to a minimum and all pull together in order to preserve positive relations (and have enough energy and enthusiasm to have a bit of fun together!) I guess the message is that the Good Child Guide can be useful however old your children are. It really helped us to get back on track and the three of us are happier and healthier because of your work.